Just When You Think You Know A Person

 

Just when you think you fully know a person, is when a person you're very close to hits you with a tanker full of things about them on what they do or have been doing without telling you after a few years knowing each other, can really become an overwhelming thing and feel like you never knew them at all. Of course in many ways it is not very much of our business of what a person does and want to do in their personal life and I guess its not their obligation to tell, but in some other ways it's a bit offensive to think they do not trust the foundation of the friendship or relationship that has been built and not tell me still. For this particular friend the news of what they have been doing and want to do is not particularly strange since I do have other friends and people I know that do what this person is doing. But from this new told news my view and perspective of this person has quite flipped. Not in a bad way, just flipped over that revealed so many things that I thought this person has never done or ever do. The surprise was so overwhelming that I had to take a break from talking/listening and took a long walk with my dog Max to let all the news sink in. Quite frankly I had a hard time chewing on it but it makes sense of a person. I saw this person with just one view and having only one side, but to my surprise as anyone else does, this person has had two sides of the same coin or have filled and etched a new sided identity on an empty sided coin after all. It should not have been a surprise! But it was. Cause the person I thought I knew "yesterday" has become someone new "today." The upside to this, or, the advantage is that I've known this person on a personal level first, and just because of what this person does on the outside now doesn't mean it changes much about who this person is on the inside(and this is what I'm hoping is true and I'm holding to it). But I do have to remember that people, still do change, life does that, and I cannot assume that I fully know a person after just a few years of conversing. I know our friendship is still in its infant stage and there is and always was room for us to get to know each other more. I just may be overreacting, in shock still, or it may just be me being sensitive as I've always been. Ughhh....I just need to sleep on it, and have another day to soak it all in, cause it was ALOT and I am assuming there's more unknown things that will be coming my way. *sigh